The longer I do this work, and the deeper I dive into my own decluttering process, the more I am struck by how much affect every single physical item in our possession has on us.
Recently, during my travels to the Bay area, a friend of mine reminded me of a movie I loved, loved, loved as a kid: The Last Unicorn. Funny he should bring it up as it kept catching my awareness when I would scroll through Netflix.
For some reason, I get great flashes of intuition when I’m driving on a long road trip. As I was headed back towards home after my visit, a small unicorn statue that I had painted as a kid, age 8 maybe, kept popping into my head. I could really feel that part of the reason I had chosen to paint a unicorn was because of the way I felt about that movie. Hmmm. Interesting.
For the last several years before our recent move, I had had the unicorn statue displayed in our home. While preparing to move last year, I remember preparing to pack the statue and thinking, “I really don’t need this, but for some reason I’m not ready to let it go.”
The emotional stuff attached to physical stuff always comes back around one way or another.
I hadn’t seen The Last Unicorn movie since my early teenage years, maybe longer, so my memory of the plot itself was pretty general. What I remembered was that there was a unicorn who thought she was the last of her kind. Feeling that this could not be true, she set out on a quest to find others like her. After a long journey, she does find her own kind and learns some lessons along the way. Classic fairy tale as I remembered it.
My memory stopped there, but there was more to the movie. I won’t spoil the very end for you, but I will tell you that it stirred a deep well of loneliness and sadness in me.
I felt a bit shocked by this, because when I remember myself as a kid of 8 or so, I generally think of myself as a happy kid. I could then feel how much loneliness and sadness was imprinted on that little unicorn statue. Wow, what part of me was holding on to that?
I have felt lonely and like an outcast much of my life, and there’s a lot of sadness I sometimes feel around that. But this doesn’t mean it’s the way I have to approach my life moving forward.
Once I felt what this statue was really holding for me, I also felt my own commitment to not living my life like that anymore.
Instead: allow myself to open to the people I interact with instead of closing; stay in the uncomfortableness of certain situations instead of running away and isolating myself; be ok with being vulnerable instead of always shielding myself.
From there the decision to get rid of the statue was an easy one.
Because it was “kid painted” (you know, the messy, sloppy kind of painting an 8-year-old usually does!) and because of the energy it was holding, I decided to smash the statue and put it in the trash instead of donating it.
Trashing it felt like a good way to reinforce one of my intentions in life right now, which is to open more and embrace the people and support I have around me instead of reverting to my old patterns of closing and pulling away.
I found a lot of freedom in letting go of the statue in this way. Clearing clutter can be extremely cathartic. Find what makes it work for you to feel GOOD about letting go of that which no longer serves you. That might be smashing it, like I did here. It could be burning it. It could be finding the perfect new home for it. There are no right or wrong answers here.
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Very simply, a group of us will get together via video call on Zoom and work on clearing our clutter (you don’t have to show your face or your space if you don’t want too though!). I provide the structure for our time together as well as being available for you to ask questions.
I also like to add a healthy dose of fun to the sessions and will teach you energetic techniques you can use after the session is over.
What you need to participate:
- An area in your home you want to spent about 2 hours decluttering/organizing.
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